如何辨識「假朋友」？► 你只需要問一個簡單的問題 - Vanessa Van Edwards（中英字幕）
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Speaking
1. The real danger I think is ambivalent relationships.
2. When it's not always easy, that's an incredible drain on our emotional energy.
3. Your energy is finite and our mental space is finite.
Vocabulary & idiom
1. ambivalent [a] /æmˈbɪv.ə.lənt/
having two opposing feelings at the same time, or being uncertain about how you feel
→ I felt very ambivalent about leaving home.
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2. drain [v]
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Note
But actually, we only have a certain amount of mental time every day.
And if we're dedicating that to trying to figure out if someone likes us or not, which is a very important thing we all like to be liked, whether we admit it or not, that I think is a waste of mental energy.
Why would we want to spend it on that?
That's why I think ambivalent people are more dangerous.
It's actually just one simple question,
All right.
Are you ever doubting that they're really happy for you?
Wow, that cuts right to the heart of it.
Dream killer questions are when they question your success, they doubt the success.
They think about all the negatives.
And dream killers are not always bad.
I have dream killers in my life and I call them when I need someone to poke holes in a business idea.
I'll pitch them, cuz they're great practice.
But I know that they are not the people that I go to and I have something.
Try to think of all the times in the last six months that you've seen them and shared something.
Did you feel like they were as happy as you were about your happiness?
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